I can't begin to count the times I have changed my mind about something. And often, this propensity of mine to change my mind has gotten me labeled as a flake.
My life has so far, been extraordinary; and, I believe having a flexible mind that is open to adapting to a changing environment is a big reason why.
Rigid adherence to ideas and beliefs that no longer serve my growth promotes a small and confined life.
Imagine how 'short' the life of a wild animal would be if it was unable to shed the excess fur of winter in the summer because of the changing seasons?
The only way for an animal to live with the same coat, year after year, is if the outside environmental conditions NEVER change.
Yeah, like that ever happens!
Shedding and flaking off outmoded ideas and beliefs are necessary for growth and movement.
Shayne and I change our minds all of the time about stuff. This has, in the past, driven some of our family and friends nuts.
I've been told that I am 'unreliable'; though, truth be told, because of our flexibility over the years, we can be anywhere, anytime if the situation warrants it. And at times, the situation warranted it.
However, our mind-changing is done responsibly. We don't change our minds about paying our bills, or not. That sort of mind-changing isn't what I am talking about here.
Occasionally, other people hitch on to a decision we have made and are upset when it is determined it's no longer in our best interest; but we can't control another's emotions. We can only choose what works for us.
Sometimes a way of life becomes stifling and prohibits growth. But many people of my acquaintance don't see a way out because they have this belief that changing their minds about what they do will be seen as flaky, or immature; or they can't live with how a decision to change their mind will affect others in their life.
It's painful, for sure, to change your mind when you know it will affect other relationships in your life in a perceived negative way. But...what if your change becomes the catalyst for another to change for the better too?
Sometimes growth is painful. Sometimes not. That's just the reality of our life.
The mature thing is to adapt as conditions change, and decide to thrive by changing a behavior or belief that no longer works as an advantage to your life or is no longer true.
If you are doing something that no longer supports the person you are NOW, I'm inviting you to stop it.
Find something else by tuning into your current emotional state. If what you do or what you believe causes you emotional pain more often than not, guess what...it's time to flake it off.
Grow. Leap. Find your wings and fly...but above all...drop the idea that changing your mind is necessarily a bad thing.
Our minds are the best tools we have to fashion the life we dream about...but the main function of the mind is its ability to learn by changing it.
The idea that changing one's mind is weak is often perpetuated by those that have a stake in controlling a person's behavior so that it suits them. It's not always the case, but for many, it is.
Here's to being flaky!